For some people, sex is really simple and it all comes naturally. They don’t have to work really hard to please a partner and such guys typically have an amazing reputation. Whether they’re called studs or sex gods, such men have no issues whatsoever approaching the ladies and spending exciting nights with beautiful women.
For most other men, however, sex happens to be a little bit more complicated.
What do women want in bed? Is there something that has gone terribly wrong, something that wouldn’t make her want to repeat the experience? Guys tend to commit an array of sex mistakes, some of those being much more detrimental than others.
Mistakes are nothing but normal and they could be forgiven. What matters is showing the desire to learn and perfect the sexual technique. Without further ado, here are some of the most common sex mistakes that men make and the best ways to fix those.
Being Too Eager To “Get Down To Business”
If you ask women, the overwhelming majority will tell you that foreplay and oral sex are much more exciting than penetrative sex.
Some guys commit the grave mistake of rushing things. A quickie every now and then is fine. When it comes to stimulating her properly, dedicating more time to foreplay, massages and oral sex will be of paramount importance.
Vaginal sex does feel good for most women but the easiest way for the majority to reach orgasm is clitoral stimulation. This is why foreplay enables many women climax, even if they can’t orgasm through traditional vaginal sex.
If you want to have a happy partner, spend some time exploring her body. Don’t rush things and you’ll be rewarded.
The Failure To Reciprocate
This is a sex sin that both genders are guilty of. The failure to reciprocate is a major turnoff because it’s indicative of a partner that’s a bit egoistical in bed.
If she’s just spent the last 30 minutes giving you oral sex, it would be a good idea to return the favor and please her, as well. Chances are that you don’t feel like it after you’ve just experienced a mind-blowing orgasm. Still, good sex is about both giving and receiving.
Assuming To Know Exactly What She Wants
Unless you are a mind reader or you’ve been with a partner for decades, chances are you have no idea about what she really wants in bed.
Men who assume that they know how exactly to please a woman miss a wonderful opportunity to turn the experience in a breathtaking one for both parties involved.
You’re two adults who’re naked in front of each other. There’s nothing embarrassing about asking her for specific instructions. Make her show you which body parts are the most sensitive ones. Ask about her favorite positions. Open communication is one of the biggest essentials for enjoyable sex.
Talking openly about pleasure and body parts may feel a bit awkward at first. She could be hesitant to share such information with you. By being patient and open, however, you’ll get this information out and make her want to repeat the experience time and time again.
Being Dominant Every Single Time
Most women enjoy the alpha male – the man who takes charge and is a bit more dominant during the sexual experience. While this sexual routine is hot and exciting, it will quickly get boring if you repeat it every single time.
Good sex is all about diversity. While being dominant one time is going to be fun for both of you, it may be a good idea to let her take charge the next time.
Letting her take charge will tell you a lot about the things she wants and enjoys. In addition, it can be really pleasurable observing a woman who’s confident about her body and who knows how to get pleasure. In addition, you’ll be free from having to work hard and you’ll simply be left enjoying the “view.”
This isn’t a sex mistake per se but it’s a major turnoff for 99.9 percent of women.
If you know that you’re about to be having sex that night, it would be a good idea to prepare a little bit for the encounter.
Have a shower, put on some deodorant and brush your teeth before she arrives. If you tend to sweat a lot during physical activity, consider getting a quality anti-perspirant. It will make the experience much less sweaty and much more enjoyable.
When it comes to personal grooming, the decision depends on your preferences and on what your partner likes. Some women prefer their partner to shave their pubic region. Other women are ok with a bit of hair. If you’re hopeful about getting oral sex and you have a lot of hair, however, you’ll have to do something about it. Chances are that she’s not going to be excited about the prospects of going down in a bush.
Sticking To The Same Routine
We stick to the familiar because it makes us feel comfortable. It’s something that we know well and that we’re good at. While sticking to the same sexual routine may be good a few times, it will quickly turn the sex in a boring endeavor.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with positions and sexual approaches that you haven’t tried before. Such an adventurous attitude is only going to get her excited.
Take sex out of the bedroom to make it fresh and wild. Do role-playing or ask her about her fantasies. Chances are that she wants to do something unorthodox, she’s simply too shy to tell you about it.
Using additional accessories and supplies is also a great way to diversify the experience. Some men are afraid of sex toys in the bedroom but she’s going to love it. Vibrating rings, warming lube and edible items – these are just some of the other options to try.
Finally, remember that there’s no universal formula for good sex. Being a good lover is all about having a clear idea about the preferences of your partner. What works well for one couple may be pretty boring for another. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and experiment. Apart from making sex better, this approach will strengthen the bond between the two of you.